What’s the answer to getting our kids excited, or at least willing to do homework? The short answer is that there is no short answer. But, I do have a few tips that might ease the load for the parents and kids.
Today was Nikolai’s Parent-Teacher conference. All-in-all, it went pretty well. We got the generic feedback, such as he fidgets, his answers lack detail, he’s got a lazy-streak — all status quo stuff expected from a nine-year-old boy and nothing we haven’t already noticed.
Since Nikolai is in the advanced program at school, his homework is heavier and slightly more difficult for his grade-level, but he is totally capable. Even so, it’s still a battle to complete sentences and end sentences with the appropriate features…and keep him interested. So, just how do we win the homework battle…?
Truth be told, as the stepmom, I’m a little more strict when it comes to the effort and the completion of homework (isn’t that the opposite of what’s expected?). I write and communicate for a living. It’s in my blood and I can’t help to request that sentences be legible. Can ya feel me?
BUT, I know mommas and stepmommas around the globe struggle with this problem on a daily basis. Your babe is tired, hungry, had a bad day – the list goes on! Here’s your virtual glass of vino, (step)mommas around the world! Right there with ya!
Here are a few short tips to help you heave yourself and your kid on the other side of that homework wall.
- Lower the bar. Not the bar of expectations, but the noise level. I’ve found no matter how frustrated I become, if I lower my volume and intensity, things tend to run a lot smoother.
- Ask more questions. This is actually the last thing you or your child want to do, but it does work. Ask your child why he feels an answer is just – even if it is wrong. This usually leads the child to realize his own mistake and helps the thought process.
- Persevere. Even though you might be ready for a vat of wine after your homework session or ready to pass your kid the ultimate list of cheats, persevere and let your child know that you two are a team! The family works together, but he is required to do his own share of hard labor. It’s team work!
There have been so many changes since I became a part of this family team. But with perseverance and patience, we generally get through the homework assignment tear-free!
What tips have you tried to survive nights of endless nights of homework sessions?